Influenced by his own neglect as a child, Lord Chesterfield began to write letters of advice to Philip, his illegitimate son by a Dutch governess, when the boy was only five years old. Regardless of what one might think of the information contained in these letters, they provide a fascinating insight into the manners and etiquette of the a gentleman in the 18th century:
I shall not therefore mention to you at present, your Greek or Latin, your study of the Law of Nature, or the Law of Nations, the Rights of People, or of Individuals; but rather discuss the subject of your Amusements and Pleasures; for to say the truth one must have some. May I be permitted to inquire of what nature yours are? Do they consist in little commercial play at cards in good company? are they little agreeable suppers at which cheerfulness and decency are united? or do you pay court to some fair one who requires such attentions as may be of use in contributing to polish you? Make me your confidant upon this subject; you shall not find a severe censor: on the contrary, I wish to obtain the employment of minister to your pleasures: I will point them out and even contribute to them. – Lord Chesterfield
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