Austen’s first inner circle was found with her family at home, at the Rectory in Steventon (see previous article). But the families who lived nearby in her immediate neighborhood and beyond, formed another kind of community—especially as she grew older. She was surrounded by friendships that became a meaningful part of her life, well into adulthood.
We know Austen dearly loved to “collect” people together in her novels and arrange them in a specific way within a specific location. She called it the “delight” of her life. In a letter to Anna Austen, she said, “Three or four families in a country village is the very thing to work on, and I hope you will do a great deal more, and make full use of them while they are so very favourably arranged. (Austen, Letter to Anna Austen, 9 Sept. 1814)
It’s intriguing to consider the “three or four families” Austen enjoyed mingling with in her everyday life. Let’s find out a bit more about the people in Austen’s personal “village,” and consider how they might have inspired her writing.
Steventon Neighbors
During the Steventon years, the Austens enjoyed a wide social circle in the Steventon and Deane parishes and the surrounding areas. Jane’s world extended well beyond the rectory as she grew older, and it included family friends, neighbors, local clergy and gentry, and several lifelong companions.
These main families included in this article are the Digweed family, the Harwood family, the Lefroy family, the Lloyd family, the Bigg-Wither family, and the Fowle family. There were many others, but these are some of the families that played a role in the Austen family life and home as Jane was growing up. Many of the children of these families remained friends of hers well into adulthood.
Digweed Family (Steventon Manor)
The Digweeds were the Austens’ nearest genteel neighbours during Jane’s Steventon years. They rented Steventon Manor, directly across the lane from the rectory and church, from Thomas Knight and later from his heir, Jane’s brother Edward Austen Knight. The family had five sons, John, Harry, James, William, and Francis, who were close in age to several of the Austen children (Le Faye; St Nicholas Church, Steventon).
Their proximity created a long-lasting friendship between the two families. The Austen and Digweed young people shared the joys and obligations of country life, including dinners, balls, card parties, riding, parish concerns, and visits. The Digweeds appear repeatedly in Jane’s correspondence over the years as evidence of the family ties (Le Faye; “Jane Austen’s Friends: The Digweeds”). James Digweed later became the curate at Steventon in 1798, extending the connection between the two families even further (“Portrait Miniatures”; Le Faye).
Three portrait miniatures of the Digweed Family now feature at Jane Austen’s House Museum of Francis William Digweed, James Digweed, and Mary-Susannah Digweed, nee Lyford. They were done in 1811 and are described thus:
Three oval portrait miniatures, painted in watercolour, gouache and bodycolour on ivory. They depict Francis William Digweed, James Digweed, and his wife, Mary-Susannah Lyford. The portraits are mounted in rectangular frames, wood painted black with a decorative hanging device. (“Portrait Miniatures”)
Harwood Family (Deane House)
Deane House, only a short distance from Steventon, was home to the Harwoods, a well-established landed family whose household formed part of the Austens’ wider local world. Jane knew the family from childhood, and John Harwood appears in her letters in connection with visits, balls, and other gatherings—evidence of the easy social life that existed between the Rectory and Deane House (“John Harwood”).
The Harwoods also illustrate how closely the neighboring families were interconnected. Charles Harwood married Eliza Terry (another neighbor), while Eliza’s sister Jane married Harry Digweed. Such marriages helped bind together the households Jane knew at Deane, Steventon, and Ashe. These intertwined family networks created exactly the kind of “three or four families in a country village” that Austen later recommended to Anna. (Le Faye)
Lefroy Family (Ashe Rectory)
Ashe Rectory, only about two miles from Steventon, was home to the Reverend Isaac Peter George Lefroy, his wife Anne, and their family. Anne Lefroy was a poet, hostess, philanthropist, and a cherished friend and formative influence on Jane; they first met when Jane was eleven (Jane Austen’s House, “Room 2”).
The two households met often within the social world of Ashe, which included the Austens, Bigg-Withers, Digweeds, Terrys, and others (Jenkins; Le Faye). During Tom Lefroy’s visit to his aunt and uncle at Ashe in the winter of 1795–96, Jane and Tom apparently danced and flirted (Austen, Letters).
Sadly, Anne Lefroy’s accidental death from a tragic fall from her horse on 16 December 1804 (Jane’s twenty-ninth birthday) was a painful loss to Jane and the Austen family. Jane later commemorated her life in the poem, “To the Memory of Mrs. Lefroy” (“Obituary for Mrs Anne Lefroy”).
Lloyd Family (Deane Parsonage and Ibthorpe)
After the death of the Reverend Noyes Lloyd in 1789, his widow and their daughters, Mary and Martha, rented Deane Parsonage from George Austen. The Lloyds quickly became part of the Austens’ closest circle; Mary later married Jane’s eldest brother, James, while Martha became one of Jane and Cassandra’s most enduring companions (Jane Austen’s House, “Room 3”; “Martha Lloyd”).
Jane’s own description of Martha as a “friend and sister under every circumstance” conveys the depth of that bond (Austen, Letters; Jane Austen’s House, “Room 3”). After Mrs. Lloyd’s death in 1805, Martha joined the Austen women in Bath. She moved with them to Southampton and then to Chawton Cottage in 1809 (Jane Austen’s House, “A Timeline”). Much later, in 1828, she married Jane’s brother Frank, which provided a wonderful continuation of their lifelong friendship (Jane Austen’s House, “Room 3”; “A Timeline”).
Bigg-Wither Family (Manydown Park)
The Bigg-Withers family of Manydown Park belonged to the landed-gentry circle that welcomed Jane and Cassandra as frequent visitors. Jane was particularly close to the Bigg sisters, Alethea and Elizabeth, and her letters indicate a friendship that included shared reading, plenty of witty commentary, and the delightful intimacies of a long acquaintance with dear friends (Kaplan; Honan).
Manydown is most remembered because, while visiting in December 1802, Jane accepted an offer of marriage from the family’s son and heir, Harris Bigg-Wither, then withdrew her acceptance the following day (Honan; Duckworth). Though a marriage to Harris would have provided material security, Jane could not go through with it (Honan; Jane Austen’s House, “A Timeline”).
Fowle Family (Kintbury)
The Fowle family’s connection to the Austens began in the Steventon rectory school. Tom Fowle, later Cassandra Austen’s fiancé, was a pupil of George Austen, as was his brother Fulwar; the school placed the Fowle family within the Austens’ social circle long before Cassandra’s engagement to Tom (Harris; Hussain, “The Boys”).
Cassandra and Tom’s marriage was delayed because he lacked a living sufficient to support a household (Harris; Jane Austen’s House, “A Timeline”). In 1796, Tom travelled to the Caribbean as private chaplain, but he died of yellow fever at sea in February 1797 before the couple could marry (Harris; Jane Austen’s House, “A Timeline”). Tom’s death shaped Cassandra’s life in many ways, and the Fowles remained connected to the Austens for years (Harris; Jane Austen’s House, “Jane Austen’s Family”). The Fowle family lived at the vicarage in Kintbury, West Berkshire, a setting later reimagined in Gill Hornby’s novel Miss Austen.
More to Learn
This is only a brief snapshot of a handful of the families Austen socialized with when she lived at Steventon. One could spend endless amounts of time learning more about these wonderful families and their connection to the Austens. I highly recommend reading: Deborah Kaplan’s article, “Jane Austen and the Bigg Sisters,” as well as the other Persuasions articles listed in the Works Cited below.
Though Austen’s novels were not autobiographical, it’s intriguing to consider how the families she knew and loved might have influenced the way Austen arranged her characters. It’s clear from her own life that Austen enjoyed a bustling household and a busy social life, with plenty of friends and neighbors in the surrounding area.
Rachel Dodge teaches writing classes, speaks at libraries, teas, and conferences, and writes for Jane Austen’s World. She is the bestselling, award-winning author of The Anne of Green Gables Devotional, Praying with Jane: 31 Days Through the Prayers of Jane Austen, the Praying with Jane Audiobook with actress Amanda Root, and other classics-based devotional books. Her newest release, A Christmas Carol Devotional, is now available! A true kindred spirit at heart, Rachel loves books, bonnets, and ballgowns. Visit her online at www.RachelDodge.com.
Works Cited
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Duckworth, Alistair M. “Jane Austen’s Accommodations.” Persuasions, no. 7, Jane Austen Society of North America.
Harris, Jocelyn. “Jane Austen’s Real and Imagined Characters.” Persuasions On-Line, vol. 35, no. 1, 2014, Jane Austen Society of North America, jasna.org/persuasions/on-line/vol35no1/harris.html.
Honan, Park. “Jane Austen’s Manydown Proposal.” Persuasions, no. 10, 1988, Jane Austen Society of North America, jasna.org/persuasions/printed/number10/honan.htm.
Hussain, Hafsa. “The Boys at Steventon: Mr. Austen’s Students, 1773–1796.” Persuasions On-Line, vol. 44, no. 1, 2023, Jane Austen Society of North America, jasna.org/assets/Persuasions-On-Line/Vol44-No1/Hussain-2/Hussain_The-Boys-at-Steventon-Mr-Austens-Students.pdf.
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Enjoyed both parts of your articles.